Expert Therapy for Trauma

You’re not broken. You’re carrying too much.

When Trauma Shapes How You Feel and Function, Healing Has to Happen on More Than One Level.

At Palo Alto Smart Therapy, we know that trauma doesn’t just live in your memories—it lives in your body, your nervous system, and your beliefs about yourself and the world. But it doesn’t have to define your life. With the right support, trauma can move into the rearview mirror—not erased, but no longer in the driver’s seat. It can become something you carry with clarity and strength: a painful memory you wouldn’t wish on anyone, but one that no longer hijacks your present. We help you process what’s stuck, restore a sense of internal safety, and reconnect with the parts of you that are ready to live fully.

Are You Experiencing Any of These Symptoms of Unresolved Trauma?

If you’ve been wondering whether past experiences are still affecting you, these are some of the ways trauma can quietly linger in the nervous system and show up in everyday life.

Emotional Symptoms

  • Emotional Reactivity: Feeling easily triggered, overwhelmed, or out of proportion to the moment.
  • Shame or Self-Blame: A deep sense that something is wrong with you, even if you can’t explain why.
  • Numbness or Detachment: Difficulty accessing your emotions or feeling disconnected from your own experience.
  • Guilt or Regret: Carrying blame for things that weren’t your fault.
  • Mood Swings: Shifting quickly from calm to anger, sadness, or shutdown.
  • Fear or Anxiety: A chronic sense of unease, hypervigilance, or anticipation of danger—even when things seem “okay.”

Cognitive Symptoms

  • Intrusive Thoughts or Flashbacks: Unwanted memories or mental images that feel vivid or disorienting.
  • Racing Thoughts: A mind that won’t slow down, especially when trying to rest or focus.
  • Negative Core Beliefs: Internal narratives like “I’m not safe,” “I’m not lovable,” or “It’s all my fault.”
  • Difficulty Trusting: Fear of being vulnerable, misunderstood, or emotionally unsafe with others.
  • Disorientation or Dissociation: Feeling spacey, foggy, or like you’re watching life happen from the outside.
  • Sleep Disruption or Nightmares: Restless sleep or distressing dreams that leave you exhausted.

Physical Symptoms

  • Chronic Tension or Pain: Headaches, jaw clenching, back pain, or overall tightness.
  • Fatigue or Low Energy: Feeling constantly depleted, even after rest.
  • Hyperarousal: Startling easily, feeling jumpy, or scanning for threats.
  • Somatic Symptoms: GI issues, dizziness, or other physical complaints with no clear medical cause.
  • Sleep Disturbances: Trouble falling asleep, waking frequently, or nightmares.
  • Changes in Appetite or Sexual Function: Loss of interest in food or intimacy, or compulsive behaviors around either.

Behavioral Symptoms

  • Avoidance: Steering clear of reminders of the trauma, including people, places, or emotions.
  • Withdrawal or Isolation: Pulling away from connection, even when you want closeness.
  • Perfectionism or Over-Control: Trying to manage anxiety or inner chaos by controlling your environment or performance.
  • People-Pleasing or Conflict Avoidance: Going along to avoid danger or rejection.
  • Numbing Behaviors: Overworking, scrolling, drinking, or staying overly busy to avoid feeling.
  • Difficulty Asking for Help: Believing your pain is “not bad enough” or fearing it’s a burden to others.

What Does a High-Functioning Trauma Response Look Like?

Trauma doesn’t always look like panic attacks or flashbacks. For high-functioning professionals, it often hides beneath success, productivity, or perfectionism. You might be showing up at work, meeting deadlines, leading teams, even caring for others—while privately feeling anxious, detached, overwhelmed, or never quite at ease.

Trauma isn’t defined by the event—it’s defined by the impact. Whether it stemmed from a single incident or a series of experiences over time, unresolved trauma doesn’t just live in the past. It lives in the nervous system, quietly shaping your emotions, relationships, decision-making, and sense of safety. Many driven, capable people carry trauma responses without knowing it—because they’ve learned to adapt, perform, and cope on the outside.

You don’t have to be in crisis to be carrying trauma. You just have to feel stuck, exhausted, or like your life looks fine—but doesn’t quite feel like yours.

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Embrace a New Relationship with Your Past

Imagine a life where your past no longer controls your present—where old survival strategies no longer run the show. At Palo Alto Smart Therapy, we help high-functioning adults heal the lingering effects of trauma with compassion, clarity, and evidence-based care.

Instead of just managing triggers or pushing through, we help you feel safe in your body, connected to your emotions, and grounded in the here and now. Using proven approaches like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and IFS (Internal Family Systems), we work at the nervous system level to help you release what’s stuck—so you can live with more freedom, presence, and peace.

What Makes Our Approach Different?

  • Healing at the Root: We focus not just on managing trauma responses, but on safely processing and resolving the experiences that created them.
  • Body + Mind Integration: Trauma is stored in the nervous system, not just in the mind. We use modalities like EMDR, IFS, and somatic therapy to work at every level of your experience.
  • Support That Matches Your Strength: Many of our clients are high-functioning and successful—but still carry hidden trauma. We create a space where you don’t have to perform or protect—just heal.

Our approach helps you feel safe, connected, and fully yourself again—through deep, grounded, and body-informed care.

Understanding EMDR and Its Role in Treating Trauma

Trauma isn’t just a painful memory—it’s something your nervous system holds onto. You might seem calm and capable on the outside, but inside, you’re always bracing for something. Maybe you shut down in conflict, overreact when things feel unpredictable, or can’t fully relax—even when things are “fine.”

A lot of high-achieving people live like this for years, mistaking hypervigilance, emotional numbing, or over-functioning for personality quirks or just “how life is.” But these are often signs that your nervous system never got to fully process what happened.

That’s where EMDR can help.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro, is a powerful and well-researched therapy for trauma. Instead of talking in circles about what happened, EMDR helps your brain reprocess the stuck emotional material while calming the body’s alarm system. Through structured, guided sessions using gentle eye movements or tapping, you’re able to revisit difficult experiences in a way that feels safe and contained—so they lose their grip on your present life.

Clients often say, “I can still remember what happened, but it no longer overwhelms me.” That’s the power of EMDR. It helps you move forward with more calm, confidence, and connection—not by forgetting the past, but by finally freeing yourself from its hold.

The efficacy of EMDR in treating unresolved trauma is well-documented across numerous clinical studies:

  • van der Kolk et al. (2007) found that EMDR significantly reduced PTSD symptoms, improved affect regulation, and enhanced interpersonal functioning—particularly in individuals with developmental or relational trauma.
  • Chen et al. (2015) reported that EMDR reduced trauma-related distress, emotional dysregulation, and anxiety in high-functioning adults, including medical professionals and first responders.
  • Seidler and Wagner (2006) conducted a meta-analysis showing EMDR was equally or more effective than cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) for PTSD, often with faster symptom resolution and lower dropout rates.
  • Lee and Cuijpers (2013) demonstrated that EMDR’s effectiveness isn’t solely dependent on eye movements—it’s the structured memory processing that facilitates lasting healing.
  • Pagani et al. (2017) highlighted EMDR’s ability to regulate overactive brain networks in trauma survivors, improving calm, clarity, and cognitive control even in cases of long-standing complex trauma.
  • Shapiro (2018) emphasized that EMDR helps high-functioning individuals move beyond intellectual insight by targeting how trauma is stored in the nervous system—enabling deep shifts in emotional responses, core beliefs, and self-perception that talk therapy alone may not reach.

Together, these studies show that EMDR doesn’t just help people understand their trauma—it helps them truly resolve it. Whether the trauma stems from childhood attachment wounds, professional overwhelm, or long-buried memories, EMDR supports meaningful change at both the neurological and emotional levels. For high-functioning adults, this means more than symptom relief—it means reclaiming calm, connection, and a sense of self that isn’t shaped by past pain.

Understanding IFS and Its Role in Healing Trauma

You might not think of your experience as trauma. You show up. You succeed. You keep it together. But under the surface, something feels off—like you’re constantly bracing, pushing, or shutting down. Maybe you overfunction at work, avoid closeness in relationships, or struggle with a voice in your head that never lets you rest.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing approach to healing. It helps you understand that these patterns—overworking, people-pleasing, emotional numbing—aren’t personal failings. They’re protective strategies your nervous system learned in response to past overwhelm.

Developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, IFS views the mind as made up of distinct “parts,” each with its own emotions and role. Some carry hurt, fear, or shame. Others work hard to keep those feelings hidden—by pushing you to succeed, stay in control, or stay quiet. In IFS, we don’t try to get rid of those parts. We get curious about them. We build relationships with them.

As you begin to understand your system and lead with more self-compassion, the pressure eases. You start to feel more connected, less reactive, and more in charge of your inner world—not by force, but by working with yourself instead of against yourself.

Research supports the use of IFS in trauma treatment:

  • Zimberoff and Hartman (2014) found that IFS significantly reduced trauma symptoms by helping clients unblend from hypervigilant or shutdown parts, improving both emotional clarity and nervous system regulation.
  • Bartlett et al. (2020) demonstrated that IFS improves emotional regulation and reduces reactivity in individuals carrying chronic stress and trauma-related burdens.
  • Parnell and Fisher (2020) noted that when IFS is used alongside somatic and attachment-focused work, clients are better able to integrate fragmented experiences and regain a sense of coherence.
  • Anderson et al. (2017) observed that trauma-impacted clients using IFS reported greater self-compassion and internal harmony—even when memories couldn’t be fully verbalized.
  • Schwartz and Sweezy (2020) explain how IFS helps trauma survivors reconnect with their core Self—building resilience, emotional flexibility, and internal safety.

IFS therapy doesn’t just treat trauma—it helps transform how trauma lives in the body and mind. Rather than managing symptoms or reliving the past, IFS creates space for authentic healing, led by the parts of you that already know how to grow.

  • A longitudinal study by Lanius et al. (2018) found that individuals who completed IFS-informed trauma therapy maintained reduced PTSD symptoms and improved emotional functioning years later. This lasting benefit was tied to their increased capacity to lead from Self, rather than remain hijacked by reactive protective parts.

These findings reinforce what many trauma-informed clinicians witness every day: IFS offers a sustainable, deeply respectful way to heal trauma by restoring access to the calm, compassionate Self that’s never been broken—just buried beneath protective layers.

Why Choose Palo Alto Smart Therapy?

  • We understand that trauma doesn’t always look dramatic—it can live quietly in perfectionism, burnout, or emotional distance.
  • Our team uses EMDR, IFS, and somatic therapy to help you safely process and release what’s stuck.
  • We don’t just treat trauma—we help you feel safe, whole, and truly grounded again.

Healing Starts Here

You don’t have to keep living in survival mode. At Palo Alto Smart Therapy, we help high-achieving adults gently heal the effects of trauma—whether obvious or hidden—so they can feel safe in their minds and bodies again.

We offer free discovery calls to match you with the right therapist. Reach out at 650-422-2944, email contact@paloaltosmarttherapy.com or use our online scheduler to get started. You deserve more than just coping. You deserve lasting healing.             

References

EMDR References

Chen, Y. R., Hung, K. W., Tsai, J. C., Chu, H., Chung, M. H., Chen, S. R., & Chou, K. R. “Efficacy of Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing for Patients with Posttraumatic-Stress Disorder: A Meta-Analysis of Randomized Controlled Trials.” PLoS ONE, vol. 9, no. 8, 2014, e103676.

Lee, C. W., and Cuijpers, P. “A Meta-Analysis of the Contribution of Eye Movements in EMDR Therapy: A Component Analysis.” Behaviour Research and Therapy, vol. 51, no. 5, 2013, pp. 231–239.

Pagani, M., Di Lorenzo, G., Verardo, A. R., Nicolais, G., Monaco, L., Lauretti, G., Russo, R., & Siracusano, A. “Neurobiological Correlates of EMDR Therapy in the Treatment of PTSD.” Frontiers in Psychology, vol. 8, 2017, article 1931.

Seidler, G. H., and Wagner, F. E. “Comparing the Efficacy of EMDR and Trauma-Focused Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy in the Treatment of PTSD: A Meta-Analytic Study.” Psychological Medicine, vol. 36, no. 11, 2006, pp. 1515–1522.

Shapiro, Francine. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy: Basic Principles, Protocols, and Procedures. 3rd ed., Guilford Press, 2018.

van der Kolk, B. A., Spinazzola, J., Blaustein, M. E., Hopper, J. W., Hopper, E. K., Korn, D. L., & Simpson, W. B. “A Randomized Clinical Trial of EMDR, Fluoxetine, and Pill Placebo in the Treatment of PTSD.” Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, vol. 68, no. 1, 2007, pp. 37–46.

IFS References

Anderson, Frank, Richard C. Schwartz, and Martha Sweezy. Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual: Trauma-Informed Treatment for Anxiety, Depression, PTSD & Substance Abuse. PESI Publishing, 2017.

Bartlett, Bobbi J., et al. “Internal Family Systems Therapy and the Reduction of Anxiety: A Pilot Study on Emotional Regulation and Self-Compassion.” Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy, vol. 27, no. 6, 2020, pp. 987–996.

Lanius, Ruth A., Paul A. Frewen, Andrew T. McKinnon, and Peter C. Neufeld. “Long-Term Benefits of Internal Family Systems Therapy for Complex PTSD and Dissociative Symptoms: A Case Series.” Journal of Trauma & Dissociation, vol. 19, no. 4, 2018, pp. 435–454.

Parnell, Laurel, and Janina Fisher. “Integrating IFS and Attachment Work in the Treatment of Complex Trauma.” Psychotherapy Networker, vol. 44, no. 4, 2020, pp. 34–43.

Schwartz, Richard C., and Martha Sweezy. Internal Family Systems Therapy. 2nd ed., Guilford Press, 2020.

Zimberoff, Diane, and David Hartman. “Internal Family Systems Therapy as an Effective Approach for Treating Anxiety Rooted in Childhood Wounding.” The Journal of Heart-Centered Therapies, vol. 17, no. 2, 2014, pp. 3–24.